Ok, so because of the culture in which we live and the recent decision by the Supreme Court and same sex marriage, I’ll go ahead and tackle the subject of David and Jonathan’s friendship.
It’s quite a coincidence that this reading came up the same day I just spent writing my response to happenings in Washington. Of course, I don’t believe in coincidences, so there is a reason.
The argument has been made that David and Jonathan had a homosexual relationship. I don’t believe that for a moment. And I have two reasons.
The first reason is that there would be no reason for scripture to try to hide it. David’s many failures are spoken of in the Bible. He was a murderer and an adulterer. Why would the sin of homosexuality be glossed over? There is no reason to do so. No one thinks David lived a perfect life.
You might say, “It isn’t pointed out as a sin because it’s not a sin to be gay!” That’s not true because there are many scriptures that declare that it is a sin. I won’t give a complete list here today, but a few are:
Leviticus 18 lists several sexual sins, most of which are aimed at the heterosexual, but verse 22 says, “Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.”
Leviticus 20 is similar to 18 in that it lists several sexual sins, most of which are heterosexual, but then there is this in verse 13, “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” I’ll note here that the punishment called for here is not reserved for only the homosexuals. The death penalty is called for seven other times in this chapter.
Of course, the OT is not the only place where homosexuality is condemned. In the NT book of Romans 1:26-27 we read, “Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.”
Also in the NT, 1 Cor 6:9-10 says, “Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
So really, if David and Jonathan had a homosexual relationship, we would have been told.
The second reason I don’t think that they did was this: I have a friend in my own life whom I would give my own life for, and I am not gay. It is possible for a man to love a friend and not be gay.
David and Jonathan were simpatico. That’s all. They were friends who loved each other.