It’s easy to agree that forgiveness is something we should be free with when we’re on good terms with the people in our life, when we’re not feeling hurt or slighted or cheated.

“Yes,” we say, “we should forgive.”

But, forgiveness is not so easy when we are still feeling the pain someone has caused us. In some perverse way, we would rather feel the pain than to forgive and let it go.

I think we sometimes feel that we’re in the power position if we withhold forgiveness. Someone says, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” And we think that by holding back, we are denying something to the other person, so we’re in a superior position.

Is that really where you want to be?

Listen to the podcast for the rest of my comments.


Adrina Thorpe and her song “Sorry”. Check it out at the PodShow Podsafe Music Network.

Leon Siu & Kawika Kahiapo and their song “Lokomaikai’i (amazing Grace) from the CD “Slack Key Praise”. In addition, “Glory, Glory Lord” and “Hawai’i Aloha” was used in the background.

Special thanks to Craig Patchett of for his help in putting me in touch with the Hawaiian artists I’ve shared with you these past few weeks. Craig enjoys slack key, too.

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